In this series of articles we'll work at understanding the invisible thread that separates us, and how we begin to mend it.

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Growing up I was one of 5 girls, all half sisters I never had a close knit bond with any of them. In fact the opposite was true with it being a constant battle to see who was worthy of our parents love.  

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This competitive environment, combined with other influencing factors led to me having an anxious attachment style that has influenced relationships my whole adult life.

 

Unfortunately, this situation isn't rare as for generations, women have been told, both subtly and explicitly, that other women are a threat.

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"She's smarter"
“She’s prettier.”
“She’ll steal your man, your job, your spotlight.”

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These messages, repeated over time and across cultures, sink deep into our psyche. They form what we now call the Sister Wound, a subtle but powerful disconnection between women, rooted in centuries of patriarchal conditioning, scarcity, competition, and betrayal.

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The sister wound shows up as comparison, mistrust, jealousy, people-pleasing, or fear of being seen and celebrated by other women. It can keep us isolated, hesitant to form close female friendships, or fearful of entering spaces where women gather in vulnerability and power.

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But the truth is: we were never meant to be divided.

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Before the modern world pulled us into individualism and hustle, women lived in circle. We cooked together, raised children together, bled with the moon together.

 

We relied on each other emotionally, physically, spiritually.

 

The sister wound is a fracture of that natural belonging.